My Love Story | The Ceremony Compromise
I had always envisioned myself getting married in a church when I was growing up. First, it was in a beautiful cathedral... and then after watching 'A Walk to Remember' it changed to a little quaint chapel in the yonder of the meadows. But as I started traveling, having multi-cultural experiences and finding my mind wandering in thoughts and theories, I realized that my faith was not based upon a particular religion but instead a spiritual connection with myself and the universe around me. I no longer saw myself saying my vows at a church alter, but instead I wanted to choose a setting that would represent me and my groom as a couple. When Jason and I chose Italy to be the backdrop to our wedding, we envisioned an intimate ceremony. Either in the beautiful vineyard landscapes of Tuscany or in an old historic building that had a story and character of its own.
While Jason and I are both spiritual beings, we have differences in how we express our spirituality. Although we both believe that our ceremony should be about our love, our vows and devotion to one another, we recognize that it would mean a lot to our family if we took a more religious route. That being said we had to weigh the importance of what we wanted versus what was more meaningful to my family. While this is our day, we also want to make it special and symbolic for those we love.
So after a lot of thought and compromise, we decided on a beautiful catholic ceremony in the Cortona Cathedral. Though a compromise of sorts, we still feel this ceremony will capture the essence and feel we originally envisioned, while paying respect to our family's wishes.
For any couple planning a wedding, it's important to understand that you may not always see eye to eye. Or even when you do see eye to eye, that may not be consistent with what your family desires. Working through these differences as a couple, compromising where appropriate, will strengthen your relationship rather than placing a wedge between you. And at the end of the day, if you agree to compromise for each other and put your partner first, you will start that first chapter of your journey together in unison. After all - Isn't that what love and marriage is about?